A Widow’s Reality Check In

Okay, so shock and denial have come and gone (for the most part), but now you realize that all the future dreams of retirement, travel and enjoying grandchildren together, have vanished forever.  All your dreams have been buried with your husband.

Widows may find themselves setting alone, crying uncontrollably, over eating or not eating enough, or simply trying to understand how to navigate their grief journey.  The ultimate goal is for your broken heart to heal enough for you to move forward and not get stuck.

There is no feeling I can think of that is worse than the feeling of not being loved.  After the initial shock, you need to grieve and yet still get moving in some new, practical and positive ways.

You may be angry but do not focus on hurting others, but instead get educated about what is happening around you, and always stand up for not only what you need but also for what you want.

In the real world, grief is a slippery slope that has you moving backwards and forwards.  Just when you think you have it under control, it throws you off track.  Just be careful that you don’t get stuck or else you could be on the road to becoming a very bitter and lonely woman.

The reality is that you will not be able to live again and build a new future for yourself until you are truly able to let go of the dreams you once had with your husband.   The truth – Reality is hard!!

5 Responses

  1. Nancy silvestri
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    Thank you I’m trying to adjust but it’s so hard I’m 66 yrs old widowed at 64 yrs old

  2. Priscilla Gibson
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    I lost my Van on Sept 13, only 2 days before his 69th birthday. We were married 51 years

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Priscilla. I’m so sorry for your loss. Mary Francis

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Priscilla. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and be safe. Mary Francis

    • Sharon sheffield
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      Priscilla, so sorry for your loss, I have an ex coworker who lost her husband of 40 years about 12 weeks ago! She is in desperate need of a one on one person who has been there, to talk to! She is in a bad way right now!!! And I am extremely concerned for her well being!!!

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