The closer I get to Christmas Day, I find myself thinking about all the people I’ve lost over the years.
In their memory, I decorate with the ornaments and beautiful gifts from my past. I only wish they were here to enjoy the day with me, but to feel better I would have to not think about them, simply because it was too painful. But I can’t just erase them from my memories.
I’ve come to realize that I want them to be part of my Christmas Day, even if it’s only in my memories.
I’m grateful for my memories of good times from my past, things they said, things they did and gifts they gave me that I still cherish.
Most importantly, even with the pain I’ve endured, no one can take my Christmas memories from me.
It is also important to honor everyone else’s memories. Each member of the family will grieve in different ways, so talk about your loss, but also about your memories.
By keeping the lines of communication open you can talk about starting some new traditions, and in doing so you will create new memories for the years to come.