How Does a Widow Balance Her Life?

If a widow wants to have balance in her life she needs to focus not just on her physical state, but also her mental state.  This means that a widow needs to have a sense of belonging, control over her life and a sense of stableness.

Over indulging one need or denying yourself in any area will unbalance you.  The way to achieve balance is to have people and activities in your life that will meet your needs.  If something is missing in your life, then look to fill it in a positive way.

It’s important to maintain your activities so they don’t disappear from your life.  If you want to be happy you have to maintain balance.  Most of us don’t believe things can get worse – but if you are out of balance, life can and usually does get worse.

Decide what changes you want to make.  Which relationships and activities do you want to add or remove to have more balance?  What is and isn’t working for you?

Your life, like most of us, is probably just so-so much of the time.  It doesn’t have to be that way.  You can take action steps towards being happier and healthier.

As simple as it sounds, a big difference between happy and unhappy people is that happy people recognize what they currently have to be grateful for.

You choose what to do and think when something negative comes up.  You won’t always get everything you want, but the more you focus on exactly what you do want, the more likely you are to get it.  Don’t talk about what you don’t want, don’t give the negatives any attention.

It’s a big risk to tell yourself, much less someone else, what you want from life.  When you state to the world what you want, then you have to accept the responsibility of going after it.  Taking action steps are good because they can force you out of your comfort zone.

You choose what you do, it’s up to you, but go slow as it takes time to change old habits.  To get what you want and balance your needs, seek out different types of activities and people.

3 Responses

  1. Sherry
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    I work but am trying very hard to have a balance. Jan 2 was my Mike’s second anniversary of his death so I went to the Cracker Barrel for breakfast. The way I am maintaining some sort of balance is reading everyday, taking the dog for his walk and daily exercise before work. Is is fair to say that I feel as if I am being patronized when I am told I am doing a good job? I am not a child that did his/her tasks well, but I am trying to cope without the love of my life. Thank you so very much for forming this group

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Sherry. Every widow is different. You may feel like you are being patronized, while for another widow it may be just what she needed to hear. We all struggle while grieving, and it’s okay that our journeys are different but also the same – if that makes any sense🤗. Take care and be safe. Mary Francis

    • June6483
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      Hi sherry – I am approaching the one year anniversary next month. I also go through my daily tasks, work, housecleaning, etc. I have lost that, “I am so happy to be alive”, feellng I used to have every morning. But I have come a long way and I am resigned to the fact the old life is gone, so trying to figure out what is my future moving forward. I do feel when people say things like – You are doing a good job – they are convincing themselves that they do not need to intervene – they are relieving themselves of any guilt they may have for not being more involved in your life. The people closest to me do not seem to have that dismissal attitude. It doesn’t bother me however, as it helps me to know where I stand and that makes life less confusing. I harbor no ill will, just learning how to understand people better, which I didn’t need to do in my past life.

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