Widows facing their feelings allows them to concentrate on reality rather than fear and helps them choose the right action steps.
How do you understand and control your feelings? The best method I know is to begin writing in a daily journal:
- Record your daily facts.
- Think about what the day was like.
- Examine your feelings.
- Consider what decisions or actions you did or didn’t take.
Tips for Journal Writing:
- Same time every
- Quiet place free from distractions
- Write it all out – be completely honest.
- Don’t worry about spelling or grammar.
- Keep your journal private.
- On occasion read previous pages to see how far you have come.
Be consistent as to when you write and record your thoughts – early morning or late evening seems to work for most people. The important thing is to do it daily. Your journal will become a record of your journey and lets you reflect on your experiences with a more objective point of view. You can see your pattern of thinking and you can develop a plan on how to manage your feelings.
It will also help because you can look back at your journal a year from now and you will see how far you have come. It is hard to see your journey when you are in the midst of it.
It’s important to remember all the good your marriage had brought into your life. The positives – being loved, fun you had together and children/grandchildren. Honor those memories, it’s healing as you move forward. But it also important to acknowledge all your feelings, the good, the bad and even the ugly.