A Good Cry Can Heal

A good cry can heal when you are a grieving widow.  When Donnie died I cried.  I would cry over everything and nothing.  I remember driving down the road and all of a sudden I felt this heavy feeling of home sickness, as if I was away from home as a child at summer camp.  The tears just started flowing and I wondered how I could go on.  I think most of my fellow sister widows experience this same type of grief related tears.

The years went by and I stopped crying as much, but I also had times where I had a bottled up feeling from not releasing my grief.  Crying is a “cleanse”, a healing both physically and mentally.

Then I had my first grandchild and my tears flowed.  For the first time in years I cried for Donnie and the empty space in our home.  Full blown crying, some were happy tears for my new grandchild and some were sad tears because Donnie never got to be a grandfather.

But in my sadness I healed because I could release my pain and stress in my tears.  Don’t be afraid of your tears and don’t hide your grief.

All I can say is never underestimate the value of a good cry.

3 Responses

  1. Stella
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    Hello Mary, I always look forward to reading your posts. Without fail I find something a word of advice or your personal experience that helps me in one way or another to keep my head up and steady my steps. I will continue to encourage fellow widows to become part of this Sisterhood that I have grown to love and cherish🙏🏾☺️.Thank you for being You!

  2. Barb cofer
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    I tend to hold feelings in than I see his picture and am reminded of the things we did together it feels empty 😔

    • Linda
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      I get that feeling of “home sickness” whenever I am out and get close to home. The heaviness washes over me as I really as luxe he don’t be there. Years are my only release.

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