The best advise I can give you is to keep an “attitude of gratitude journal”. It keeps us widows focused on all the abundance that is currently in our lives. Evidence is powerful.
The more energy we focus on the positive aspects of our lives, the more abundance we will receive. All that’s needed is an open mind and an open heart.
Things happen in life that we have no control over, but we do have control on how much positive we accept into our lives. Yes, your husband is gone and you will never have that part of your life again, but be clear on what you want and what you believe you deserve moving forward.
Pay attention to what you say to yourself – be positive and empower yourself by your own self-talk (which you are in control of). I believe that God loves me and wants me to be the best verison of myself. God helps me to create my life, He has bigger dreams for me than I could ever dream of for myself, but I have to believe to achieve it.
This Easter I realized just how much I had healed since Donnie’s death in 2007. My fear of change became less and less every time I stepped out of my comfort zone.
My results may not be positive every time, but I still grow from trying. Just think what my life would be if I didn’t take some risks and if I didn’t appreciate what I still had? I had to accept responsibility for the actions I took or don’t take.
Strengthening my connection with God gave me an even greater appreciation of my life, even with all it’s imperfections. I’m normal in that I have a hard time being 100% committed to my goals, I miss opportunities and make mistakes. But I’ve learned that I needed to be grateful for the abundance I still have.
I am capable of creating great value in this world, and so are you.
Happy Easter and may your broken heart heal.