Widow have their own ideas about their grief and healing, and that causes them to reach conclusions on how to handle it. So, what is your personal philosophy? These conclusions determine how we will act on any given day and in any given circumstance.
We all have experienced grief, despair and heart break. The way that each of us thinks makes the major difference in where each of us arrives in our journey.
In the final analysis, it is not just what happens to us, it is what we choose to do when we are struggling with our grief. What we think, and the conclusions we reach regarding our loss, is going to be based on the sum total of what our personal philosophy towards life is. All that has ever happened in and around us is now part of us – our unique self.
It is worth whatever time we must take and whatever we must invest to gather the ideas and the information needed to improve our philosophy. We must continually seek a balanced philosophy of life and then live in accordance with that philosophy. In our continuing search for knowledge the secret is in keeping a personal journal so we can see our growth. A place to capture our experiences, ideas, desires about the people and events that not only touch our lives, but helps to mold us into the person we are.
The very act of writing about our lives helps us to think more objectively about our actions. Making one choice at a time is quite easy to do. But if it is so easy, why don’t more of us do it? The major reason is simply, neglect. The things that are easy to do are also easy not to do.
The choices and decisions we make determine our future. In those moments of choice, it is the knowledge you have, acquired and the philosophy you have developed that will either serve you or fail you.
Our hearts are broken and we need to grieve, but when we are ready it is up to us to do something with what we still have. Sooner or later we must convert our knowledge into activity or we will stay locked into our grief. A growing awareness and a positive attitude are not enough without action.
We must find ways to show on the outside all of the dreams we possess on the inside. Why is it that some widows seem to heal, while other don’t? The answer might well be that some work at their healing… and others do not. We don’t want to look back since the death of our loved one, seeing the years that have passed with regret at all the things we could have done, and meant to do, but didn’t. That is why widows must act, using our desire to become more than we are.
Every time we choose to do less than we could, it has an effect on our self-confidence. In the end, it is how we feel about ourselves that provides the greatest reward from any activity. It is what we become in the process of grieving that brings value into our lives.
Widows can do the most amazing things, once they have made the decision to tackle life with a new and intense level of activity. They do it by working every day on the little things that will make a major difference in how their lives turn out. Like everything that requires change it is easy to do… and it is also easy not to do.
Until we have learned to take care of the little opportunities that come our way, we will never master the disciplines for becoming happy again. Widows can convert their dreams into plans, plans into goals and goals into small daily activities that will lead them towards a better future.
Activity is a major part of your healing. It is the power that gives meaning to your personal philosophy.