Time matters for widows – age has given me a sense of clarity and appreciation that I didn’t have in my younger years. Don’t listen to the myth that you can buy this or that product to be young again, or that things will make you happy.
You are not the same woman you were before the death of your spouse. This loss has put you on a different path. So, what you do now with your time does matter.
Sadly, many terrible things are happening all around us. The least we can do is make sure we are not drawn into the negatives and drama of the world.
If you think about it, your present moment is the only time there is. We rob ourselves of a full experience of the present if we focus our thoughts on the past or worry about our future.
Time matters, years go by faster as we age. To value time we need to be free of the chain of regrets and heal by living fully in the present.
If we have faith in a positive life force (with whatever name you are comfortable with), we are able to relax and just let the moment in which we live give us comfort and wisdom.
Yes, we need our grief time, but we cannot heal by seeking it in a past we cannot change or a future we have little control over. Healing can be found only in the present moment. Healing of our broken hearts comes when we accept our life – what it was, is and will be.
That doesn’t mean widows forget their past or don’t make plans for the future. The place of power, is the time between both past and future – your present moment.
Grief presses upon us as we miss them, their comfort, understanding and love – but time matters and every present moment gives us a chance to begin our lives again. We have the gift of time, please accept and honour it because it’s a gift our loved ones no longer have.