Are You Home?

I mean – are you home, really home and not just a place that provides a roof over your head, and a bed to sleep in?  It’s a big and important question, because the answer sets the course for everything that follows.

Your home should be a reflection of your tastes, values and comforts.  It is time for you to think about how you can express yourself through your home. What physical things do you find pleasure in?  What can you live without?  Is it time to clean out your husbands tool shed and personal hobbies?  What can you do to de-clutter and make this a cozy home?

Does the paint colour feel right?  Is this your home or just a place to put down your head?  If it doesn’t feel right, then change it.  The feeling of being “at home” can’t be bought, because it comes from our intimate relationship with our own space.

If we spend our time and creativity on making it our personal home, it will give us the sanctuary we need from the outside world.  Other “home” touches could be a picture or displaying those special things that you count as blessings.  Research shows that when life is difficult, just being near things that remind us of better times helps us to heal.  This desire for a special haven isn’t for luxury, but a deep biological need to feel secure.

Begin today replacing objects you don’t care about with ones that you love.  Your surroundings are an expression of your inner self and you can’t improve your life without changing your environment.



4 Responses

  1. Michelle Molloy
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    I am not ‘at home”. I’ve been living with my daughter and her family for one year now and I’m getting ready to rent a place of my own but there’s much anxiety going into finding a place. Can I afford it? Will I be safe? The list goes on……I haven’t lived alone since I was 17 years old and that was in college and my parents paid for that,

  2. Joyce
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    Thank you!!!
    I needed this message today.

  3. mary samuels
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    I am just now fixing up my home. Sunday it will be 9 months since my Gary died. The front room is exactly like it was when the paramedics took him out to the ambulance. I spend most of my time in my bedroom. There is so much I let go the last 5 years. I was just worn out taking care of him, our pets, the yard, working. I am almost done boxing up his clothes. Doing a lot of deep cleaning and de-cluttering. I am “home” and will be for the foreseeable future. I am making it into my nest again. I love being at home. As long as I have a cat, books, wine, and Goldfish Crackers I don’t need to go anywhere! I get emails everyday from my mortgage company telling me how much my house is worth. Astonishing, considering how much we paid for it in 1995! Peace be with you ladies. I feel your pain. Hoping for brighter days ahead for us all. XOX

  4. Marjorie
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    That is exactly what I am doing. However, going through many photos of my husband and I is very painful. I had to stop.

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