Widows Controlling Stress

I know being on our own is hard and that widows controlling stress is not easy.  I knew my diet wasn’t very healthy, but I couldn’t summon much motivation to change in those early days.  Instead, I choose to not think about the consequences of my choices.  Mostly what I felt was numbness.

Eating better obviously has benefits in and of itself, including losing weight and improved health, all of which may bring your energy level up and stress level down.  Drink water because it’s one of the most undervalued source of energy renewal.

The first step to managing stress is to define your purpose, plans for your future.  It is impossible to find your path until you look honestly at who you are today.  We all find ways to avoid the most unpleasant and discomfiting truths in our lives.

Over time stress can lead to impatience, irritability, anger, plus health issues like headaches, back pain, stomach disorders, possible heart attacks and even death.

Along with feeding our body, we must also feed our spirit.  Widows are often unaware of what feeds their spirit and so they neglect to follow though.  Simply put, what feeds your spirit may not be what feeds my spirit.  Choose experiences that empower you and will help you feel authentically alive.

Other than eating, water and purpose, sleeping is the most important source of energy in our lives.  Even small amounts of lost sleep can have an impact on strength, moods, energy level and concentration.

If you’re a worrier than get a journal and write out your worries and all the possible ways to deal with them.  Once you commit your worries to paper you should be able to let it go at night for a better night sleep and therefore less stress.

On your own, you are vulnerable as others may or may not have your best interests at heart.  Each person’s version of widowhood is a little different.  Talk to others – lots of others – who are in the same place as you are.

Sadly, the world is filled with dark energy that can be harmful if you let it in.  Don’t be naïve by denying the negative influences around you. Be proactive by limiting the news and watching more positive and light hearted shows.

I wish that you too will find new ways to lessen your stress and bring joy into your life.  It’s important that widows find the peace that a healing heal brings.

Mary Francis, The Sisterhood of Widows

5 Responses

  1. Lemo
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    This is very true! It’s very easy to fall into the trap of neglecting oneself. Even if you don’t feel like it, atleast try to have the basic needs met like eating , resting when tired. Indeed as widows we are vulnerable to abuse, so it’s important to share with the like minded people as it helps to understand oneself better. It’s been exactly 2 yrs since I lost my husband and ever since his passing, things have never been the same. Being part of the sisterhood of widows has helped so much in putting things into perspective and understanding a lot of things that we go through as widows.

  2. Renee
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    Thank you for the helpful advice.

  3. Deborah Usry
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    It’s interesting. I am just at one year, and the world (and probably me) are telling me in subtle ways that it’s time for me to “get back to normal”…whatever that means. This is a helpful reminder that there is no time line for grief, and there is no “getting back to normal.” Stress associated with grief is an on-going challenge.

    • Renee
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      yes, stress sure is on going…and there is no “timeframe” for going through the entire “grieving” think…. It takes us all time to work through all the issues that come about as a result of our spouse dying…So I so agree with you, Deborah Usry, We need to take care of ourselves, in order to heal through the grief…and those who spout out: “get on with it, get over it” simply have had no clue. i would not wish them to be in our position, either, though! Just shows a complete lack of understanding or comprehension on their part! For me, Sept 26 ,2022 will be the one year mark since my spouse of 36 1/2 years died.

  4. Patti j
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    An email from the sisterhood always comes at the right moment. It will be 2 years october 28 that my husband died. I felt from the very beginning I was doing everything that was suggested. I journaled, I joined a bereavement group, I kept close with family & friends, I got back to exercise… but this second year was worse than the first in many ways. But I do understand now that my grief will never end, my life will never be what it was & I just need to accept this. This whole second year has been spent making decisions on my own about my house, my finances etc, & always try to make sure I’m busy each day. Weekends are still the hardest for me if I have no plans. My husband Nick & I were retired early & very social). My kids & sisters live close by, but I try so hard not to burden them, they always include me, but they have their own families & lives, so I try not to be so needy. I just pray for the happiness & contentment I had in my life with my husband… to have that again one day.
    I pray for all widows. No one else can ever know how we feel.
    ❤️Patti j

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