Do you know the man you’re dating? If your still grieving and aren’t emotionally ready to be in an intimate relationship, how are you going to determine if you’re with the right guy? They may be perfect BUT the relationship won’t feel right if you are spiritually or emotionally empty.
You have to like yourself and know that you have a lot to offer a mate. Is your self-esteem high enough to love another person or do you feel so empty inside that you have nothing to offer except your neediness?
When grieving you’re in process of change – unstable, growing and healing. You are different today from what you were yesterday and will be different again tomorrow. This period of change doesn’t make for a good foundation, so don’t move to quickly from dating into a long-term commitment.
Karen Rumelt
Absolutely agree with this. You can’t meet anyone if you’re still too emotional. The person who you meet wants to meet you!! They want to know what your likes and dislikes are. They don’t want to hear about your deceased partner, spouse.
Dianna
Excellent advice. Sometimes I thing I am ready to date but wonder if I am truly ready. Good insight. Thanks
mary samuels
I have no intention iof dating. I am still grieving, wearing my wedding rings, and being with anyone else feels like cheating on him. I am 71 and anyone I would be meeting would have dead wives, ex wives, children, grandchildren, etc and I just can’t be bothered. I had a 43 year childless, happy marriage and I prefer to remain single. I am alone but not lonely. No one can compare to him, and honestly, people are just too nutty these days, and I’m just not going to go there.
Oluwatoyin Ruth Abayomi-Isaiah
Thank you for this beautiful piece. I am always looking forward to your weekly message to us. A lot has changed in me since i joined in your Network. Its 8 years now that my Beloveth Departed. I am now 47years . I have been trying and doing better and believing that I have to start dating, believe me its so lonely! But the People that worries me for relationship are all married. I also do not want to cross the line of Moral and Dignity. What do i do? Its so hard.
Deborah Usry
After 18 months my neighbor introduced me (68) to a widower who had lost his wife two years prior to a long cancer diagnosis. Because I had figured out how to build a new life and wasn’t looking for a companion, I was skeptical but agreed. Mary Francis, your advice is solid. I will say that because this man is a widower he understands my grief, and I understand his. I know his journey and he knows mine. This relationship has brought new joy to my life. Small and patient steps are working for us.
Hope
I am bleeding as I type because I started dating I’m only realising now after losing what could have been a good relationship that I am not ready to date and I’m in pain right now. I am hurt.