For many widows, our pets are our fur babies. Some of our most loving relationships are the ones we have with our pets. We are their caregivers, but they take care of us too. They inspire us to be our better selves.
Widows can run away from themselves for a very long time. You can fake happiness doing things you only half care about. But eventually life reveals itself and you’re forced to add value to yourself. Be your true self by becoming more of who you really are, anything less is a half-lived life.
As a widow, it’s so clear how we short change ourselves when we are anything but honest about who we are. And people’s reaction to our truths is usually not as negative or dramatic as we fear.
We may need to change the way we think about grief and how it can affects our mental health. This is were having a fur baby in our lives can shine a light on our experiences and ease our depression, anxiety and other psychological difficulties.
Also, seek out what other widows have done to make it through their darkest times. You can’t talk a widow out of her grief. It is real and like everything else in life it operates on its own spectrum. Though there are many common aspects to grieving, every widow experiences it her own way.
Yet many widows hide their struggles, not seeking help. We, as a society, have never understood or acknowledged how much grief affects us. We need to speak openly because continuing to deny our grief will affect our overall health. We need to start talking, and we need to start now. If that means that you start out talking to your fur baby, that’s okay.
“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly despairing, acutely miserable,
racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly
that just to be alive is a grand thing.” Agatha Christie
Mary Francis, The Sisterhood of Widows
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