Life of Passion

I’ve thought of this a lot in the years since I’ve become a widow. What is a life of passion?

I think it’s a joyful life but that’s hard to find after the death of a loved one. Everything is grey and dull and it’s hard to even laugh. I think there should be a Passion Tree and we should be able to pick our passion. If only it was that easy!!

I have found life a lot more joyful since I became passionate about helping other widows. I think that to be joyful you have to find your passion in life. Somehow it will involve helping others because when you stop looking at your grief and focusing on others you can’t help feeling. And feeling, any feeling in the beginning is a great start to living a life of passion.

Don’t waste your time thinking it’s too late to go after your dreams. You can learn new things at any time in your life if you’re willing to be a beginner. When it comes to dreams – nobody makes you do them. Nobody is going to push you.

So, take the time to define your goals – Don’t be afraid, dream big!!

• Write down something you want to have or to do.
• Give a target date for reaching that specific goal.
• List all the steps that need to be taken to reach that goal.
• Now list what needs to be done consistently every day.

At the end of each day write out your thoughts about that day in a journal. Example: if my goal is to lose 20 pounds in 3 months – it’s only 6.5 lbs a month, and that is only 1.5 lbs per week.   Funny, how l.5 lbs per week sounds so much easier.  And that is the secret – break the goal into small pieces that you can do.

All I did was state my goal and break it down to what I would do each day.  Somehow that big scary goal became small and easy for me to accomplish.

Repeat this process for every goal: write goal – set date – list daily steps – journal at day’s end. Take some time to really think about what you want your goals to be.

To Our Shared Journey,                                                                                      

Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®,

Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator,

Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT), 

Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”