Lives Are Forever Changed

We were married but now we are single and our lives are forever changed.  People often ask me how I handled being a wife and then a widow.  The truth is I didn’t handle it well, but I thought I was.  You see, when you lose a loved one you go numb and don’t think clearly.  That is way it’s always good advice to not make any major changes for at least one year.

If you are having trouble than support groups can do two things for you.  First it gives you a chance to listen to others that are grieving.  You pick up on their feelings and it helps in your own recovery to hear their opinions and experiences.

Second, you get to share your grief journey with those who understand, listen and don’t criticize.  This sharing is real important as it helps us to get in touch with our feelings.  You may be struggling to understand how to live this new life.  You may have hidden your grief, never able to share it and certainly never capable of responding to your grief in a healthy way.

In a support group you learn to grieve one day at a time and that you are okay as you are.  Deal with today and just today – that is enough to handle without the added stress of worrying about the future.

A church support group helps many to accept with faith the power of God and learning to just turn things over to Him.  Grief is a tremendous journey that can encourage our spiritual development and growth.

I believe that as we heal we discover this basic truth; you can’t do it alone.  However, with the encouragement of support groups, friends and family you can do more than survive.  Yes, our lives have forever changed but with that change comes the opportunity to have personal growth, to be a better person because of our journey.

Where can you find support?

• Your community.
• Your church.
• Hospice/ Mental Health.
• Online – thesisterhoodofwidows.com
• Private Facebook Group – “The Sisterhood of Widows – Private Group for Widows”

To Our Shared Journey,                                                                                      

Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®

Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator,

Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT)

Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”