Is it time to move? Moving from the home you shared with your husband to a new place is never easy and a widow may not even be sure if a move is the right thing to do.
I really miss having someone to bounce ideas off of or provide alternatives to what I think is the right thing to do. So, what now? Should we turn to our kids or friends for their opinions? Oftentimes the small, even insignificant decisions can leave us widows confused, and moving is not a small decision!
As a widow ages, she may want to remain in her own home because of her memories. But for many, their declining health may make that impossible. You don’t have to be old and sick before you make the decision to move.
Many widows move because they want a smaller place with less maintenance. Others move because it will provide a more social environment or make their financial life a little easier.
The last thing you want to deal with is another major change in your life, so don’t take this step until you are ready.
Some signs that you may be ready to move:
•The house is less kept up and maintenance isn’t being done.
•Expenses for heat, taxes and insurance are hard to pay.
•Too many steps make it difficult to get around the house.
•It’s hard to keep the outside walkways shoveled in the winter.
•You don’t have a social life or see many people.
•The house feels empty and too lonely for one person.
•You are thinking more and more about moving to a smaller place.
You can talk this over with friends and family but remember that the decision is not reversible so the time to move has to be when it feels right for you.
To Our Shared Journey,
Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®
Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator,
Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT)
Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”
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Linda
My husband deceased 19 months, we bought our current home in 2019 in a 55+ community. It was not a move I really wanted to make and I said some things I regret now. I love the mountains, I am currently by the coast. I’m going to do some exploring, but I can see me staying where I am if I’m honest. My house is not hard to maintain, I’m financially secure and there r. Numerous club to join if I choose, the neighbors are caring, but not intrusive.
My husband passed at home, but this is ok with me in that I don’t have nightmares or anything, maybe it brings me closer to him.
We didn’t have children, my family are in another country and his family in another State, I really have nobody to ask.
Toni
I am thinking of moving to a single level home. Currently I live in a three story townhome alone. Possibly moving out of state for better affordability, but knowing I probably could not come back if I change my mind.
No family here where I currently live so that is not a consideration.