Being a hopeful widow is what we all strive for. There is just as much chance that the best will come to you in any situation, as it is that the worst will happen.
So why not be hopeful!
Sometimes hope in itself will change an outcome for the better. Just as despair can worsen the conditions, hope can lighten your way. Being a hopeful widow isn’t shaped by the words that come from our mouths, but how we approach our lives.
I believe that every moment is a given moment, a gift. I haven’t earned it and it can’t be brought. I also have no way of assuring that there will be another moment or day given to me. This moment is a gift, with all the hope it gives us. This present moment is our chance to do or experience what we desire in life.
Every day the sun will rise, it will rise tomorrow, the next day and the day after. No matter what is happening in your life or in the world the sun is going to keep rising. Trust in the power that allows that to happen. Trust is knowing that you will make it through.
Being a hopeful widow helps us to be grateful people. Speak your gratitude aloud to others, or write it in your journal. Appreciate everyday moments: a walk in nature, time with friends, love of grandchildren. Don’t fear what you could lose but instead embrace, with hope, the moment you do have.
Do not abandon attempts at change because of difficulties you encounter. Do not expect your journey to change because you find it hard. Do not expect life to turn around because you are weary.
You may not be able to change your circumstances, but you risk nothing by looking on the bright side of things.
Live your life boldly with lots of hope because if you don’t, who will?
To Our Shared Journey,
Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®
Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator,
Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT)
Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”
widows first year, widowed friendships, the sisterhood of widows, widow support, grieving, how to grieve, grief, life of a widow, #thesisterhoodofwidows, #widow, #grief, #griefsupport, #widowsupport, #howtogrieve, #widowshelpingwidows
Kathleen Paris
At some point we all need the reminder that our own lives are a gift. Thank you for this post reminding us widows to live the life we still have. It does take a decision ultimately to move forward. Thank you!
Kitty Thomas
Thank you – I just passed the two yr date of his passing and I am still struggling – was good to read this today.
Tina M Jones
As bleak as things looked two years ago loosing my sister and then my husband five days later was difficult enough. But other traumatic events happened after that. I was in despair n feeling pretty hopeless. But I kept the faith knowing God has other plans…I just had to be patient…which can be difficult too. But I held on…now I have a new life. No, my husband n sister are very much in my heart with great memories…but my new life has expanded my horizons…I’m grateful and Blessed, thank you God.
rosemarie
Love this post. My husband of 40 years passed almost 8 months ago. We were extremely close, soul mates as they say. I had to look at his death differently, as he was very ill and on hospice, he passed away in my arms at home. It was crushing to lose him, life changed drastically. I pushed myself , after many months, to go to my senior center, I now am in a knit group, volunteered for a friendly senior call program to contact seniors in town. I am going on a trip with my sister for the 2nd time. I know my husband’s soul is with me every day as I walk through this life without him. I allow myself to break down each and every day, it’s ok to do, my loss is real, I miss him so much, but all those memories and his love keep me going in his memory. I keep his memory alive by talking openly about him, letting people around me know it’s ok to talk about him. I put photos of both of us around my home, love seeing him smiling. I had to keep telling myself it’s ok to go on and live life, so many opportunities out there. My heart goes out to all of you.