Please keep a journal and write out all your thoughts – the good, the bad and the ugly. Every six months go back and read over your writings. Widows seldom see the halting and painful steps by which the most insignificant healing is achieved.
Are you writing out your thoughts, feelings and fears? If not, I urge you to keep a journal or spiral notebook. Put in the date and write whatever enters your mind. You may be surprised at the outpouring of feelings that were waiting to be expressed.
What have you been surprised to discover about yourself? For me, I was surprised that I was a writer. After Donnie’s death it started by me just writing in my journal and it went from there to me writing a book – who knew!!
Write for yourself as worries written out will not seem so large. Take time to write of the positive things like the support from friends and family. Write of the times when you took control and the progress you have made. Your journal will always be there to share your grief, pain and future plans. Write it all down and feel the release that writing will give you.
Here is a part of Vicky’s story from Chapter Seven of my book “The Sisterhood of Widows”:
Vicky – “I had a hard time, but I wrote in my journal every day and it helped me. I did a journal for a year after Grant died and then I put it away. Before I started going out with Luke I took the journal out and read it. I couldn’t believe how far I had come between that first year and the last six months. I wrote in it every night and if it was a really hard day I would write in it twice. Looking back I couldn’t believe the difference in my thought process from when they died.”
To Our Shared Journey,
Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®
Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator,
Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT)
Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”
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Rhonda Marion Todd
I’ve been writing but hesitate to go back and read because I don’t want to remember how much it hurt.
Tina M Jones
By journaling and going back to read it later has helped me grow even my re. By reading what I’ve written has shown me just how far I’ve really come in healing n growth… amazing!