Widows Mask

A widows mask is an image that you project so that others believe that is who you are.  But it stops others from really knowing how you’re feeling and may even keep you from knowing yourself.

The yearning to feel heard, needed and understood is so strong that we seek it in whatever form we can get it.  A lot of widows need to know that they are really okay and don’t need to hide their grief to fit into other peoples expectations.  The key is to find understanding from those that listen, are interested and make you feel like you matter.

“When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself,” Eckhart

I believe that we widows learn as we grow.  The world may try to convince you that you’re not enough, but let your inner self tell you otherwise. You may not want to take off your mask because you don’t want others to see the sadness underneath.  But when you take that leap of faith, you will often experience more closeness with friends and family.

There is one thing all of us need to remember, and it’s that we are all good enough, just as we are.  Hold on to that simple reminder when you find yourself struggling and hiding behind your widows mask.  It can be exhausting always wearing that “happy face” mask.  Let people know what you are really feeling instead of always having to appear strong.

When your widow’s mask gets too heavy have faith in yourself and throw it away.  The real you will be out in the open and then you can start rebuilding your life.

To Our Shared Journey,                                                                                      

Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®

Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator,

Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT)

Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”


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  1. Sue
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    I don’t think people want to see me without my widow’s mask. When it’s slipped I’ve been ridiculed for being a gloomy gus. If I cry unbiddenly, they get stock-still, never a hug or gathered close. One actually left the room. I’ve been told others have gone through it, what’s your problem? I’m starting to avoid family and friends.

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