Widows – if you feel that your life is small, you have no future and you’re tired of being tired, you need to dream more. Nothing will help you break out of your rut faster than a worthwhile dream that you are passionate about.
I remember sitting in my bedroom tired of being tired. I made up a list of ten things I wanted to do in the next twelve months. It was empowering just to make the list and to have a plan, a future.
Six months after Donnie’s death I took a motorcycle course and got my license. I can’t explain how empowered I felt from checking it off my list. It gave me a small taste of living a positive life.
Do you have dreams that are worthy of your time? Dreams that give you something to get out of bed for? A dream worth pursuing is a valuable commodity.
Dreams move us forward, give us energy and make us enthusiastic about life. Every widow ought to have a dream and I’m here to encourage you to dream and not lose hope.
Not all dreams have to be huge to be worthy of your time. They just need to be big enough to stretch you and strong enough to keep you working towards them even when times get hard.
The world is filled with dream crushers that love to knock other’s dreams. They may not be pursuing any dreams of their own or maybe they are trying to protect you from more pain. Either way, it’s never too late to plan your future and pursue your dreams.
It may be easy to settle for average, to blame our problems on others, on our circumstances or lack of money. Please don’t settle for less than you deserve just to avoid more change.
If you don’t have a reason to move forward your life may slip away. Good enough is not good enough and one of life’s greatest tragedies is a widow with a great capacity for life but who does nothing with it.
There are some specific things you can do to help fill the void created when your husband died. A good job, support system, friends and family are all important in supporting you as you move forward.
Honor your grief time and don’t feel guilty because grieving is important. But there will come a time when you ask yourself “How Am I Doing?” and your answers may surprise you.
To Our Shared Journey,
Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator, Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT) and Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”
Wanda
I am so tired of fighting and trying to pretend that I’m okay when I am not. I lost my husband after 36 years of marriage. Then I lost my brother a year ago. I have no children and neither did he.I had 2 step children who sued me
after my husband died and they haven’t had any contact with me since. That
Also breaks my heart. Especially after helping raise them. Seemed like everywhere I turned, another friend forsake me. Please pray that I will be able to move past all of this and move on with my life.
In Jesus’s name. Thank you and may God bless you.