Watch your words because words matter. Words spoken without thought can hurt grieving widows and cause unnecessary pain. On the other hand, words we speak when grieving can also cause pain to others that don’t understand our grief journey.
Words have impact and rude, mean, harsh and nasty remarks have harmful effects. These thoughtless words live long after they are spoken and affect everyone within hearing distance.
On the other hand, a seemingly casual compliment creates a lovely atmosphere that makes us feel good. One kind word can give hope and courage to those that are grieving and we benefit from it also. You’re responsible for what you do and what you say, and that’s it. You are not responsible for what other people say, it’s hard enough to live our own lives without getting caught up in other peoples drama.
It’s a known fact that people with positive connections live longer. To get a clear view of your social network map it out. Put yourself in the center, then draw lines to family members, co-workers, teachers, mentors, friends and include everyone that you interact with. Do you see how you could create a more positive connection with the words you speak? Here is a clue: You attract what you give away. If you give comfort, kindness and friendship (words matter), then you will attract it back from those you interact with.
We all know that words matter and have the power to watch our words, but it takes a conscious effort to do so. “Think before you speak” should be part of everyone’s mandate. Never waste words on cruel, mean or negative talk. This type of talk produces terrible thoughts and vibrates negative energy – which we don’t need.
Send out a good energy by saying “Can I help you?”. These words vibrate with positive energy and by helping others we strengthen our own character. We benefit because the stronger our character becomes the more control we have over our own lives.
To Our Shared Journey,
Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator, Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT) and Author/Founder of “The Sisterhood of Widows”
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