Letting Go of Your Hurts and Pains

We live in a society that loves to make excuses, and one of our favorite phrases is “It’s not my fault.” But the truth is, if we are bitter and resentful, it’s because we are allowing ourselves to remain that way.

We’ve all had negative things happen to us. If you look hard enough, you can easily find reasons to have a chip on your shoulder. Anyone can make excuses and blame the past for their poor choices. You may have valid reasons, but if you want to live in victory, you cannot use past emotional wounds as an excuse for making poor choices today.

You have to learn to let go of the past, to let go of your excuses (even valid ones), and start thinking instead of all that you can do. Quit comparing your life to someone else’s, and quit dwelling on what could have been, should have been, or might have been. Quit asking questions such as “Why me?” or “Why that…?” or “Why this…?”

You can’t do anything about what’s already happened to you. Don’t hold on to feelings of resentment or bitterness as they will only poison your future. Let go of your hurts and pains. Forgive yourself for the mistakes made and forgive others who did you wrong.

When you are unable to forgive, you are headed for trouble. You are on a destructive path – change your course. If you want to be happy, if you want to be free, you must be willing to change the course of your life.

Describe that impossible situation in which you would like to see some course changes.
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4 Responses

  1. Diane
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    I have lost my husband coming up on 7 years. My good friend lost her husband two years ago. I was feeling down and saying to her, “Why me or us” and she said to me that everyone has problems and grief in their life. No ones life is perfect. I think that was sage advice coming from a fresh widow. It made me feel humble. How wonderful it is to have such a friend in my life.

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Diane. I agree with your friend but for some widows it takes s bit longer to accept that grief is part of living. Always a blessing to have others that we can talk to about our journey. Mary Francis

  2. S.Rose
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    Still miss my guy after almost 3 years. Will the heartbreak ever end? We were childhood friends who married young.

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Rose – I’m sorry for your loss. You ask “Will the heartbreak ever end?” and the straight, simple answer is Yes. The “heartbreak” ends as our broken hearts heal, but the grief never ends. We grieve the loss of our loved ones till the day we die, but our broken hearts do heal and life goes on.

      Take care, Mary Francis

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