We live in a society that loves to make excuses, and one of our favorite phrases is “It’s not my fault.” But the truth is, if we are bitter and resentful, it’s because we are allowing ourselves to remain that … Read More
You will be feeling a considerable amount of emotional pain and it’s normal not to want to be around others in the initial months following their death. While we are grieving we are not our usual selves and you may … Read More
Let your friends and family know that their comforting presence (a hug or a touch) is important. They can help with shopping, cooking, errands or drives to appointments. It also helps us to talk about our loved ones and our … Read More
We often express bewilderment at the lack of understanding from friends and families. Time and time again I hear this refrain: … but they don’t understand. Perhaps as time goes by your relationship with old friends will change to suit … Read More
When we lose a loved one suddenly it’s very hard to adjust to our loss. We didn’t get a chance to say goodbye, and there may be other things that will be forever left unsaid or unfinished. For those left … Read More
Are you ready to feel good about yourself again, to be the best you can be? You can dare to be happy with who you are right now and accept yourself, faults and all. You may not realize it, but … Read More
How do you relate to the most important people in your life? Ask yourself “Do I get what I need from my relationships?” and “Am I investing enough time and effort in my relationships?” In each of your relationships you … Read More
Now and then, a newly bereaved person will tell me about a recurring thought or dream of a loved one. The person feels possessed by these thoughts or dreams and powerless to stop them. No one has told me that … Read More
After the death of a loved one, life is forever changed. The Saturday movie night that you enjoyed with special friends is gone. You are now a single in a couple’s world. In the worst-case scenario, you could even be … Read More
I understand your pain, but I also know that despite unimaginable suffering, others have found their way back to happiness and we can too. Buddhist monks developed a quality known as “loving kindness”. We may think that this means thinking … Read More