When you are young and things don’t turn out, you can always tell yourself “maybe next year”. That’s the beauty of being young – there are lots of second chances. But as time passes, how do you acknowledge that life … Read More
Murphy’s Law states “Whatever can go wrong will go wrong”. This negative way of thinking may cause us widows to expect the worst life has to offer. Unfortunately when we expect a bad situation with someone or something, it often … Read More
Being happy starts with believing that, as a widow, you deserve to be happy again. If you believe that you deserve happiness, you can start creating happiness for yourself. When you look at other widows do you say the following … Read More
You may have a greater sense of well-being than some widows who have suffered a severe trauma or on the opposite side, widows who have experienced no trauma at all. But without a doubt as a widow, if you have … Read More
After Donnie died I had no purpose and felt no joy or happiness in living. For me to become an author and counselor took a personal commitment to go after my dreams, no matter what the cost. Once I realized … Read More
As widows, to build our self-esteem we need to overcome our fears. Every time we overcome a new challenge it gives us even more confidence and if there is anything we need more of its confidence in ourselves. Our future … Read More
Grief robs us of our joy, our interest in life and our future as we knew it. To get this back we need to be like a child. Be curious like a child. They ask a million questions. They want … Read More
For widows nothing may be as important then the “Principle of Optimism”, which teaches us to dwell on happiness rather than on despair. As always, I teach that first we widows need to grieve, but in time we have the … Read More
My Mom died a few years before my husband. How I wish she could have been there for me. Whenever life took a bad turn Mom would say “It is what it is”. In her way she was telling me … Read More
We widows have enough on our plate without carrying a grudge. Carrying a grudge is exhausting, unhealthy, and totally bad for our health. I used to be great at holding grudges. But just as I’ve learned that chocolate for breakfast … Read More