For widows, shame drives our fear that we are not good enough. Shame isolates us, separating us from others and from our shared humanity. Shame is a profoundly debilitating emotion. No one wants to talk about it, but by its … Read More
As widows we need to have our grieving time, but there will come a time when we are faced with two distinct choices about what we will do with our lives. The first choice we can make is to be … Read More
Frequently, problems begin when a widow believes that others should just know what she wants. Often others don’t know what you want because you have not told them. Widows often hope that their family and friends will just figure it … Read More
Cognitive therapy for widows is just a fancy way of saying “change your thinking”. Widows need to take their time and grieve. So don’t even consider this until you are ready to start healing your broken heart. But when you’re … Read More
No one continues to do something that will only give them negative, unwanted results. If you continue to behave in a certain way, or make a certain set of choices, you do so because at some level, whether you realize … Read More
I’ve come to understand that my inner, widow voice, is trustworthy. I just needed to quiet myself down so I could hear it. I’ve sometimes responded to that inner voice by ignoring it or hiding from it, and I don’t … Read More
It’s hard for a widow to create even more change in her life when it’s already been totally upset by her husband’s death. But, when you heal, you can change by getting rid of some old habits. First, lose your … Read More
It’s a mistake to think that a New Year is an automatic fresh start and that your grief will just lessen by magic. Grief has to have its time, it needs to be spoken of, seen and felt so that … Read More
I don’t know if you’re spending today with your family, close friends, neighbours or just having a quiet day by yourself. But what I do know is that without a doubt you are missing your loved one. Some of your … Read More
It’s been years since I began blogging on being a widow. I want to thank you for all your support. Hundreds of widows have visited my blog and Facebook page with many leaving comments that I have personally found inspiring. … Read More