As a widow, I’ve had people say hurtful things after Donnie died. It took me years to realize that they just didn’t really understand how they sounded. I’m sure that most of them didn’t mean to hurt my feelings, but … Read More
The decisions we widows make every single day are what builds the foundation of our future. Some are small decisions – should I walk today or set and watch T.V.? Some are life decisions that have more of an affect … Read More
Many widows wear their wedding rings till the day they die and others take them off the first year. The key here is that this is a very personal decision and others need to keep their opinions to themselves.
You are unique and being a widow just makes you even more unique, so that in everything you do, you are either meeting your needs or you are not. Whether you realize it or not, every moment you are making … Read More
I can’t stress this enough – keeping a journal is a great tool to write out all your emotions. It’s hard to find your balance as a widow, and a journal is a great way to track your feelings, the … Read More
I mean really “home” not just a place that provides a beautiful roof over your head, and a comfortable bed to sleep in. It’s a big and important question. The answer sets the course for everything that follows. Your home … Read More
Everyone keeps saying that you will feel better in time, but grief isn’t measured by how much time has passed.
I know it’s hard to find your place in this world after you’ve lost a loved one. Grief makes us unbalanced and unsure of ourselves. You need to embrace “You”, with all the attitudes, intensities and characteristics that make you … Read More
Mary talks about the 5 Stages of Grief in Elizabeth Kubler-Ross book “On Death and Dying” and how these stages were meant for the person who is dying and not for the loved ones left behind.
What if you stopped trying to fix yourself and just let your deepest self emerge? Decide what you want to change, than draw a time line to get it done. Break down the process into steps that will allow you … Read More