Single in a Couple’s World

After the death of a loved one, life is forever changed. The Saturday movie night that you enjoyed with special friends is gone. You are now a single in a couple’s world. In the worst-case scenario, you could even be seen as a threat. There is nothing worse than having to leave a gathering of friends to go home alone to an empty house.

Most of us have experienced this feeling, understandably, because we are now single again, and the rest of our friends are still paired off as couples. Of course, friends will be kind and will try to include you in their activities, but the experience will not be the same.

Now that you are single again, the combination of old friends and good memories of other times makes, at times, for an empty feeling. It’s no wonder that sometimes we do feel uneasy in such circumstances. However, after a time you will, as I did, be able to share your wonderful memories with your new friends. We all have stories to tell, and it is good for us to share them.

4 Responses

  1. Sheila Bull
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    Well I call where I am ‘being in widow city’ as opposed to all those who are in ‘couple city’.
    Ive been widowed nearly 9 years and still live alone because Ive not met a new partner and I hate seeing all those couples! Its every where you go you get reminded you are on your own and maybe I am ‘not wanted’. I hate where I am. I do my best with internet dating but dates are very sporadic.
    Many social activities are couple orientated so single people get ‘left out’. Or at least feel ‘left out’. Being on my own is wearing me down. It certainly reduces the type and number of activities you can do because you havent got a partner. It hurts me to the core. Theres nothing you can do about this!

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Sheila – The problem is that you are trying to fit a square (being part of a couple) into a circle (being single) and it isn’t a fit. You will have to focus more on social activites that are not couple orientated so that you don’t get left out. I agree it is hurtful and there are some things that couples do that you can’t do, but it opens the door to other activities to experience. There is nothing you can do about “couple” stuff, but there is lots you can do about “single” stuff with other ladies in your area. Either that, or you go it alone and that isn’t as much fun. Take care, Mary Francis

  2. Karen
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    I am struggling with the same issue. I have been a widow for 1 1/2 years. I quickly realized I no longer fit in the couples scene. Either I’m excluded or I attend, only to feel lonely because I’m flying solo. I’m not ready to date yet. I now realize it’s more important to learn to feel comfortable alone. I also am trying to forge more friendships with other ladies.

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Karen – You have the right idea. It’s important to forge more friendships with other ladies as it is what keeps us going. Take care, Mary Francis

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