After we lose our husbands we are unbalanced and being a “widow” is a strange new role. I was surprised to find that a dominant emotion for me was fear. Fear that I would never emerge from the emotional fog. … Read More
You have to step outside your comfort zone and challenge your desire to be risk free and safe. You may have to have a heart-to-heart talk to yourself. It’s time for change and to get up out of that rut … Read More
Is it better or worse how they died….suddenly or after months or years of suffering? We often wrestle with this question and I’ve learned to accept it’s all the same but different and no matter what it was, we would … Read More
Some widows develop lifelong victim mentality following the death of their loved one. They feel that they have been wronged or robbed of something precious. It places a burden on family and friends who must be on constant alert to … Read More
Of course as widows we are lonely. It’s hard to go from being a couple to being single, plus we need to grieve before we can heal. But in time you will arrive at the point of being “comfortable” with … Read More
Your quiet home is a constant reminder that your loved one is gone – really gone. The silence can be crushing and you may find it hard to concentrate. TV is boring and nothing excites you! There is a nagging, … Read More
My feeling is that being widowed late in life has a much greater impact on everyone than most people realize. The truth is that being widowed at any age is a major life event and it can be even harder … Read More
What does one do with all the stuff we had accumulated over the years? I found out, much to my amazement, that the children really didn’t want it either. Having a lot of things stuffed in boxes in the garage … Read More
Some people keep putting off what needs to be done, thus causing stress and anxiety to build up. It’s easier for them to postpone making a decision than to make a decision. Excuses range from “not having the time” to … Read More
When your loved one died you had no choice because you were not in a position of control. Tears flow and again you are not in control. Others around you take over and although they are trying to help, again … Read More