Don’t Let “Death” Control Your Life
At first you just get by minute by minute – then hour by hour – day by day – week by week, until you can do a month without breaking down. If you can have an “ok” moment of 60 … Read More
When Sleep Won’t Come
If there is one problem shared by most widows, it’s that sleep won’t come and the nights are way too lonely and long. When my husband died I just couldn’t seem to locate the switch that would turn my brain … Read More
The Life Of A Caregiver
Caring for a loved one whose life has been shortened is challenging work that most of us are untrained or prepared for. The emotions, the worry, the uncertainty about treatments, caring for children and the social isolation are sometimes more … Read More
Forgive – Yes, You Can!
No one is perfect and we are certainly not ourselves when we lose someone we love. When you do make a mistake acknowledge it, but don’t hold onto it for the rest of your life. If you hurt someone in … Read More
Toxic Friendships
Friendships often change when we become a widow, some friends drift away because they were part of your couple friendships and some drift because they just can’t handle your grief. In both cases, let them go. But what about the … Read More
It’s Hard To Say Goodby
It’s hard to say good-bye to our husbands, but putting off meaningful conversations is perhaps the number one source of regret. Spend time telling them what they mean to you. Dying people want to hear four very specific messages from … Read More
Treat Yourself With Dignity
It’s time to make some changes and a good start is acknowledging the good and bad in your life. Write down a declaration that in this New Year you will make a conscious effort to treat yourself with dignity and … Read More
Recovering From Trauma
Widows need to talk, to share their stories and memories. Fortunately, most of us know that talking to a compassionate person can help heal our emotional pain, but if along with grief we carry anger and bitterness, we can get … Read More
Widows – Do You Have A Secret?
When we keep a secret there is almost always shame involved, either for others or for ourselves. As widows we know that coming clean can be risky. It can expose real vulnerabilities and damage relationships. But it’s a New Year … Read More
Financial Advice for Widows
As widows we have learned quite painfully, that life is full of unexpected potholes. That’s why we need to plan for the unforeseen – even more so, now that we are on our own. So your first task is to … Read More