As widows we have had the joy of living knocked out of us. Most of us settle for simply “getting by” as we grieve. We just let life happen to us instead of intentionally moving forward. The question is, “How … Read More
First a widow needs to promise herself that she will never give up. To say “I will do….” and “nothing will stop me.” Be like a child that never stops trying to walk until they are able to do it. … Read More
You are grieving and I imagine that you are in need of a little inspiration – a little dose of creative energy. Do you paint, write, decorate, play music etc.? Maybe you think that you didn’t get the creative gene … Read More
At first you just get by minute by minute – then hour by hour – day by day – week by week, until you can do a month without breaking down. If you can have an “ok” moment of 60 … Read More
If there is one problem shared by most widows, it’s that sleep won’t come and the nights are way too lonely and long. When my husband died I just couldn’t seem to locate the switch that would turn my brain … Read More
Caring for a loved one whose life has been shortened is challenging work that most of us are untrained or prepared for. The emotions, the worry, the uncertainty about treatments, caring for children and the social isolation are sometimes more … Read More
No one is perfect and we are certainly not ourselves when we lose someone we love. When you do make a mistake acknowledge it, but don’t hold onto it for the rest of your life. If you hurt someone in … Read More
Friendships often change when we become a widow, some friends drift away because they were part of your couple friendships and some drift because they just can’t handle your grief. In both cases, let them go. But what about the … Read More
It’s hard to say good-bye to our husbands, but putting off meaningful conversations is perhaps the number one source of regret. Spend time telling them what they mean to you. Dying people want to hear four very specific messages from … Read More
It’s time to make some changes and a good start is acknowledging the good and bad in your life. Write down a declaration that in this New Year you will make a conscious effort to treat yourself with dignity and … Read More