Do you want to meet new friends? Think before you answer because new friends just don’t happen without some effort on your part. It’s common for widows to be stressed by loneliness when old friendships fade away. But, and this … Read More
While most widows can look at their lives and with hindsight, see the mistakes they have made. They also can learn to make better decisions as a widow. Please don’t criticize yourself, we all have times of indecision. It’s hard … Read More
Your life is in pieces – the first year of widowhood urges you to do something, anything to put your life back together. But you can’t piece together the life that is forever gone, so what now? Are you asking … Read More
Widows try to establish boundaries between their grief at work and at home. For some work provides a sense of community, but some aren’t as fortunate. Work can provide support and they gain a sense of well-being, but for others … Read More
The first few months after the death of our spouse we may either hardly eat or eat in excess to find some comfort. From a health perspective we aren’t doing any good to our self-esteem and yet eating/drinking/partying are all … Read More
Sadly, most of us have had to stand up to bullies at one time or another. Don’t trust them and always watch your back. Important, Don’t Share with Bullies. We need to have confidence in ourselves (boosting strategies to defuse … Read More
Right after our husband’s death we may have a strong urge to get into our car and run away. Are you a run away widow? Running from making all the decisions, from all your fears and responsibilities. Fantasy of this … Read More
Widows often over-react when grieving, then look back on it later and realize it wasn’t a big enough of an issue to justify how they reacted. We have a lot on our plate so tiny tensions that build up can … Read More
How do you feel when someone says, “You need to relax”? I would bet that it makes you even tenser. The more you try to relax, the opposite happens; you’re not relaxing. Start by noticing the level of tension in … Read More
Our culture values thinking with our heads based on our experiences, knowledge and education. But to honor our self-care we have to get in touch with our feelings. Maybe the most sensible way of doing things is not in your … Read More