Our Social Network
Widows need a strong social network to give us a vital sense of belonging. Our social networks act as a family to support us and to make us feel safe and secure in this crazy world of grief. If we … Read More
Healing Choice
Every widow grieves her own way and will come to the point where her healing choice is necessary. The types of healing needed will differ depending upon the widow and her circumstances. The properties of healing are present in our … Read More
Social Anxiety
I think we all have “social anxiety” at one time or another, but widows really suffer from this. It’s important to recognize our feelings of social anxiety. Feeling that you’re being judged. Believing that others would humiliate you. Trying too … Read More
Our Husband’s Stuff
What to do with our husband’s stuff is conflicting and just plan difficult when we are still grieving. After about four years I finally cleaned out the storage shed at the cottage. There stood Donnie’s golf clubs and chain saw … Read More
Our Inner Voice
The most important voice we need to listen to is “Our Inner Voice”. Each time a widow ignores her inner voice she shrinks inside of herself. The more she denies her voice, the more she fears rejection. Instead of relying … Read More
Documents to Keep Safe
There are documents to keep safe and documents that we need to get rid of. Widows know all about paper work, and now that we are on our own we need to get our documents in order. The pack rat … Read More
Is Honesty the Right Policy
I have a question for you, “Is Honesty the Right Policy?” Think about the last time someone asked you how you were doing and you replied that you were “okay”. Lies create distance and destroys relationships – is that what … Read More
Difficult People
Before I can advise you on how to deal with difficult people, we first have to define who they are: Needy Pushy Superficial Passive-aggressive Actively aggressive Critical and judgmental Chronic complainers Stubborn and argumentative Try to maintain a spirit of … Read More
Temptation to Quit
When times are hard the temptation to quit is part of our human nature, but widows are stronger than that. Having said that, widows need to watch out for these negative thoughts: This is too difficult for me. I am … Read More
Bereavement
Bereavement is a period of mourning or state of intense grief. You will soon find that family and friends may not understand your unique bereavement journey. Try to find others that are in your situation but are further along. They … Read More