As I approach valentine’s day without my husband I think about being single in a world I once knew as a couple.
I think that searching and believing in a soul mate can be dysfunctional and can even compound loneliness. First I need to find myself and be at peace with who I am, then and only then would I ever want to step out into the couple world.
It’s a myth to find a perfect mate. He does not exist and if he did I wouldn’t be able to stand him. I wouldn’t want a man to be too good because that would only show up own faults. I would want a man with all his faults that loved me with all my faults.
That was the way it was and I would never want less then what I had. So please enjoy Valentine’s with family and friends but don’t settle for less than you deserve. If a new love is meant to be then let it come naturally into your life and it will be a better fit for you.
Patricia
Mary Francis, thank you for your thoughtful words. I wish you and my fellow Sisters in this club, a Valentine’s day full of love from family and friends. I am finding some peace as I connect more with God these last few years. I am understanding that there was more love in the faults my husband and I both possessed than I realized. All the busyness and struggle can hide real feeling.
The hearts in the florist’s windows and on red and pink cards remind me of love, and that’s not a bad thing. I am reminded of the good times when I am with my daughter, who shares her father’s intelligence and calm. Happy Valentine’s Day.