First a widow needs to promise herself that she will never give up.  To say "I will do...." and "nothing will stop me." Be like a child that never stops trying to walk until they are able to do it.  Resolve to heal your broken heart by taking positive action steps. Learn to be in the moment, to watch the sunset, listen to the silence and capture the experience for what it is.  Until we learn to be in the moment, we will never master the art of living well. The process of change begins with our attitude.  A positive attitude is everything. We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude.  What they did is irrelevant, we make the choice to be angry about it.  To grow as a person, we must accept full responsibility for our own feelings.  Our positive attitude is an asset of great value and we must strengthen and guard it from thieves that seek to steal it from us. It is your resolve to heal, that will help you make the needed changes in your life. Unless you change, life won't change for you.