Why do widows wander, aimlessly settling for a life of just existing rather than a full life? There are many reasons, but the basic and fundamental reason is the absence of feeling loved or needed.  Life is basically a process of getting the facts about what you want in life and applying that knowledge to heal. It takes discipline to not only plan, but to apply that plan and uncover your unique possibilities.  Healing takes work, an awareness of the need for action and a plan to implement.  Discipline says, “Do it now and to the very best of your ability”, but grief stands in our way. The rewards of discipline lie in a future where we choose what we want instead of aimlessly settling for whatever life gives us.  One life, no second chance – life with discipline or regret – the cost is high.   How far should you go?              As far as you can! How much should you learn?     As much as you can! How much should you earn?      As much as you can! How many books to read?          As many as you can! How much should you share?    As much as you can! What should you accomplish?    As much as you can! By Mr. Shoaff (Mentor to Jim Rohn)   We were not born to fail, wallow in poverty, self-pity, or mediocrity in any form.  Widows have imagination, ideas, and our capacity is totally without limitation. I know you are hurting, grieving and lost.  I also know that it will take all of your effort to continue this life, to feel right about your choices.  It does not, however, take effort to fail and that is why that path is so easy to follow. The wheels of life continue, the disappointments and challenges of life are constant as are our reactions or lack of.  We have the right to choose; to use discipline or not, to act in courage or hold back in fear, to use facts or respond only out of habit. It takes time to heal your broken heart, but while healing choose action, truth and don’t aimlessly settle.