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Bitterness and Resentment
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When you lose someone you love, you may feel bitter about them "going before their time".
It's easy to resent others that are describing their difficulties with their spouse, child or parent. In your head a little voice is saying, "I'd trade with you any day". You may feel a little ashamed of your lack of compassion for their troubles or how irritated you get with them.
It's hard to listen to others complain about things that seem petty and unimportant compared to your loss. Have patience with yourself and have compassion for your own pain. It's natural to compare your life with others, but slowly the bitterness and resentment will fade.
Bit by bit you'll find patience and strength. Life will start to settle into a new path and you will enjoy the company of others - even those that complain about anything and everything.