The following websites and authors are about living a life with purpose:
Stephen Covey, Anthony Robbins, Denis Waitley, Chris Widener, Vic Johnson (Goals2go), Bob Proctor, Zig Ziglar, Robin Sharma and Mark Victor Hansen are some of the best in the world so check them out. Most of the above authors offer free newsletters and samples so you don’t have to buy anything. I’m also writing today for the families because they want to help but are struggling on how to approach their loved ones. My advice is let them have their time of grief and not to push them. The best thing to do is buy them motivational books, CD’s and DVD’s that they can watch and listen to when they are ready. The gift may not be opened for months but it will be there for them. Everyone’s grief is different and they have to progress through the pain to the healing. It's my sincere hope that I’m encouraging all detached Widows to choose independence over dependence … to free yourself from grief… and to choose, above all, to live your life with purpose and passion rather than fearful caution. To Our Shared Journey, Mary Francis is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator, Early Intervention Field Traumatology (EIFT), Author/Founder of "The Sisterhood of Widows"All Blog Postings by Mary
Detached Widow
Archive notice: This is a historical post from Mary’s years of blogging. Some older posts may mention products, courses or shop items that are no longer available, as Mary now focuses her time and energy on supporting widows inside her private Facebook community. The guidance and stories remain here as a free resource for widows.
For current ways to connect with Mary’s work, you can:
- Read her book on Amazon .
- Request to join her private Facebook group for widows .
You’ll know that you’re a detached Widow and out of touch with how you feel when others seem more emotional then you. You may feel disconnected and emotionally unavailable.
If you want to talk to a professional then get a Counselor that you’re comfortable with. Ask other widows if they know of anyone that can help you, look up the local Community Health Clinic or ask your Family Doctor for a referral. Don’t hold back, this is the time to reach out.
Many professionals have websites and you may find the answers to some of your questions by checking their website out before you call them. Trust your intuition and keep searching until your gut feeling is an enthusiastic “Yes.”
Ask family and friends if they have any recommendations, do an internet search, check with a “virtual” community of grievers, check the telephone book in the yellow pages and check with your health insurance provider.
Small changes can be enough to see significant improvement in happiness. Taking action steps is the key – just wishing for things to change isn’t going to do it. Like most things in life, ignoring it will not make it better. You may think that you have to be strong but grief has to be acknowledged.
In addition to seeking out a Grief Counselor, reconnect with people from your past and activities that you used to enjoy doing. Lots of older people volunteer a couple of hours at their local church, hospice, hospital, soup kitchen and that’s just a small list of where you can make a difference. Join a group of people whose company you enjoy, you are not the alone in your grief and talking to others can help.
The only way we can achieve independence is to exchange our wishful thinking for purposeful action. Which means you're going to have to make a tough decision to step out of your comfort zone… take a calculated risk… and go for it.