When our husbands died the question, “What am to do next?” comes to mind.  First thing a widow should do is to just let herself grieve, and understand that grief has no limits.  There is no time schedule and widows should not put any extra demands on themselves. Let yourself grieve and keep as many options as possible open to you so that they will be available when you’re ready to start the healing part of your journey. Everyone keeps saying that you will feel better in time, but grief isn't measured by how much time has passed. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17LYfYTI3Vw Widows have to do all the things that two people used to do.  We just keep doing everything until we burn out, lose track of our priorities and our time.  It’s important to stop and take a close look at what is really taking up your time.