When I was fifty, I joined a legion of widows, all of us declaring our grief and honoring our memories. With my grief came the understanding and appreciation of my most important asset, my health. Gone for me, were the days of wanting “stuff”.   I focused now on family, friends and my health.  Eating more mindfully, doing the stairs when possible and letting myself do nothing, nothing at all (a big issue in my busy life). It’s important to feel vibrant and charged up for the life you have in front of you.  As widows we have a hard time believing that every day offers a new chance to embrace the wonder of being alive.  Believe me, I understand. Just for today, pay attention to the tiniest of things.  Focus on the life around you; blooming flowers and squirrels playing in the trees. Widows can change themselves, too – blossom into a new life by believing in yourself.  The best step forward is the step towards less “stuff” and more health style changes. This is your life and your worth the changes needed so don’t hold back.