Life goes on they say, but how can it, how dare it without our loved one? To fully heal our hearts, we must give ourselves permission to be happy. Eventually, as our heart heals, we will still miss them, but the dominant feeling becomes the warmth of our memories. More tragic than any death, is to be half alive as if our life ended with theirs. When you're hurting write out your feelings. Write out your wants, needs and wishes.

1.  Write a letter to yourself as if it was from your late husband. Put into words the support and encouragement he would give you.
2.  Write another letter stating what you're thankful for, what you forgive and what you plan to do in the near future.

With these insights you can get in touch with your feelings. We often become unbalanced by nurturing others before ourselves. We are bought up with the idea that it is better to give than to receive and we forget to pay attention to our feelings, to be creative and to take time for ourselves. We need to build up our self-esteem because we are important.