When other widows seem more learned, have higher morals, and are more capable in dealing with their grief, should we learn from these widows or be envious of them? Learning from widows that are further along than us is the way to go.  We need to learn from those that have walked this path. The reality is that it is extremely rare and difficult for any widow to understand her grief journey without support from other widows. Sadly, some widows have forgotten how to ask for the support and encouragement they need.  They see others who are doing better than they are and they feel jealous.  But healing is a process and everyone is at a different part in their journey. Widows are not perfect, we all have faults and err from time to time.  It is okay to make mistakes as long as we are willing to acknowledge them.  The practice of asking for help, is a virtue we should all practice. A viewpoint is composed of an idea of understanding, knowledge and learning.  That’s all well and good, but it could still be a wrong way to view things.  That is why it’s important to talk to other widows.  They can help clear up the fog that surrounds “grief”.  There are many myths and falsehoods out there about stages of grief and the right way for us to grieve. Widows want to help other widows.  They are like family and feel close because they can relate to their pain.  The most important thing about widow friendships is mutual understanding, support, forgiveness and willingness to learn from each other.  They are direct, sympatric and caring. To learn from other widows there must be mutual understanding for the relationship to deepen.  Please stay away from politics and religion unless you are 100% sure they share your same beliefs. In starting a “widow friendship”, we need to learn to accept our differences and view them as advantages instead of disadvantages.  It’s very important that we learn from these widows and in turn are there to help other widows. If you are seeking support and encouragement from other widows you can go to Facebook and request to join, “The Sisterhood of Widows – Private Group for Widows”.  This group is only for widows (married and common law) and all requests from men and business will be deleted.  There are three security questions to answer to help ensure that the requests are real and not from scammers.  You will also have to agree to follow our rules.  These rules are strictly enforced and not just for show. Mary Francis Learn from widows, widow friendships, the sisterhood of widows, widow support, grieving, how to grieve, grief, life of a widow, #thesisterhoodofwidows, #widow, #grief, #griefsupport, #widowsupport, #howtogrieve, #widowshelpingwidows