Make it your home, it was shared with your spouse and now you may not feel at home in your own house.  Do you dread facing your empty house when you come home? Slowly and carefully you may want to make some small changes, but only when it feels right to you.  Start with one room by looking around it and deciding on what you want to keep, what is comfortable for you and what needs to go. It could be as simple as moving a plant into an empty corner or getting a new cover for your bed.  The moment you make one simple change, you are starting to make the home yours. Be willing to experiment and remember that even though your loved one does not live there anymore, their spirit remains in your memories.  Move things around, take some away and add something new. Slowly, you can breathe some freshness into your home and it will be more welcoming when you walk into it. What do you do with all the things you have accumulated over the years? I found out, much to my amazement, that the children didn’t want them either. Having a lot of things stuffed in boxes in the garage and closets created negative energy.  Eliminating the clutter freed me of always thinking about it and having it done made me feel better. If it’s your loved ones clothes and personal possessions, don’t do anything with them till some time has passed and you are ready. But don’t hold on to all their things for years and years. There are some things that should be kept for memories but old tools, big boy toys, clothes and collectables should go unless you use them yourself. What is your side of the bed?  Like most couples Donnie and I had our own sides of the bed.  I loved to cuddle up to his back for a few minutes beore I would turn arount to snuddle into my pillow..For months after his death the bed didn't feel right.  My daughter brought me an oversized Teddy Bear for Donnies side of the bed.  I slept with it for months before I let it go.  Over the years my bedroom became my retreat and has received more than one facelift.  Now I sleep all over the bed and can't image sharing my space.  Where and how do you sleep?  To make it your home, I suggest you start with the bedroom as it may help you to sleep better. It may take energy you don’t feel like you have, but just getting up and doing this as a project will make you feel like you are accomplishing something. That feeling of accomplishment will help you move on to the next project and give you something positive to plan for. Life isn’t about “things” – “things” don’t come to your funeral.  Clutter will block positive energy, sap your energy and even negatively affect your health.  Organize one room at a time.  Once that area is completed, pick another room to declutter.  Baskets with lids are great for organizing objects in one area.  Simply commit to ONE hour a day on ONE room per day and before you know it that one room will make it your home - personally yours.