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Making the Home Yours
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What does one do with all the stuff we had accumulated over the years? I found out, much to my amazement, that the children really didn’t want it either. Having a lot of things stuffed in boxes in the garage and closets creates negative energy. Eliminating the clutter freed me of always thinking about it and having it done made me feel better.
If it’s your husband’s stuff don’t do anything with it till some time has passed and your ready. But don’t hold on to all his stuff for years and years. There are some things that should be kept for memories but old tools, clothes and big boy toys should go unless you use them yourself.
Slowly and carefully you may want to make some small changes, but only when it feels right to you. Start with one room by looking around and deciding on what you want to keep and what should go. Move things around, take something away and add something new. Slowly, you can breathe some freshness into your home.
This might be a good time to get some uplifting and inspiring art for your walls. Surround yourself with objects from nature and plants with bright colors to liven up your home. It can be fun to take charge of some easy remodeling and painting. It will give you a boost to clean out a room and rebuild it with fresh paint, new artwork and less clutter.
It may take energy you don’t feel like you have, but just getting up and doing this as a project will make you feel like your accomplishing something. That feeling will help you move on to the next project and give you something positive to plan for.
Life isn’t about “things” – “things” don’t come to your funeral. For almost four years Donnie’s golf clubs and chain saw have been stored in our shed. It isn’t like I’m ever going to use either his clubs or the chain saw, but letting them go was hard.
You would think that it would get easier but it doesn’t. It feels as if a little bit of Donnie disappears every time I give away something of his. They are part of my past, but I need to move forward without them. My mind tells me that it’s time to let these things go, but my heart is still saddened.