Just about everyone I know is going through some kind of loss - we're at an age where we're losing friends, parents and older family members.  We can channel our emotional journey with songs - songs move us forward with love and support, we heal as we move on. Music allows us to know that it's okay to grieve, it's okay to be sad, that it takes time to heal and no one should rush us.  In this society we expect widows to snap out of grief, when in reality, grief takes time and it's different for everyone.  The reason we grieve is because we loved and there is no better strength than love for our healing. Listen to the music that you shared together.  Sure it will bring tears to your eyes, but that's okay because it's all part of your journey.  We need to grieve so that we can heal our broken hearts.  Music helps us to honor our memories instead of trying to avoid them.