Putting things off is something that happens often to us procrastinating widows.  Most of us find being totally responsible for our future terrifying.  Our fears become so exaggerated that we find ourselves procrastinating. If we talk through our fears, we will realize how unrealistic most of them are.  In fact, adversity will and can move you to grow stronger. Whatever the decision, putting it off often becomes a bigger problem than actually doing something about it.  Expect difficulties, know that life is frustrating and that you will encounter obstacles and then when they come, they won’t have the advantage of surprising you. When you’re avoiding an important task, weigh the advantages and disadvantages of doing nothing.  List the advantages of your procrastination and there are some or you would just do your task.  Then list the disadvantages for not getting your task done.  Now, review your list and see what it’s telling you. You will never be “in the mood” so don’t wait for the right moment.  Instead break your task down into small steps that can be accomplished bit by bit. Life exists one minute at a time, so all you have to do at any given time is one minutes worth of action.  That’s not so hard, is it? Are you talking yourself out of living your fullest life because of fear along with low self-esteem? At any given moment you are free to start over again.  Your new behavior and self-confidence will quickly teach the people in your life that you are amazing, just as you are. Creativity is not reserved for artists and musicians.  You were born with natural creative ability.  You create your life with the way you think and act.  The challenge is for you to believe you have the flow of creative energy within you and that you can create the life you want. There is an opportunity every morning for an “aha” moment, even as a widow, I promise.  A chance to do one thing that day to move your life along a path of your choice. Trying to control every aspect of your life is hard work, and not realistic.  Thinking like that is what freezes you.  The truth is more along the lines that you can control one aspect at a time, and that mean no procrastinating. Be clear on what you want and at the same time be open to something better or different showing up. It’s important to give yourself credit for each small step you take.  Too often widows discount their accomplishments and focus only on what they haven’t yet done. Ultimately all rewards must come from within yourself.  If you never allow yourself to feel good about your efforts, soon you’ll find it pointless to even try. So, no matter how small your achievement, give yourself credit.  When you believe in yourself, you can tackle even more.  If you are grieving, then grieve, but when you are ready to start healing your broken heart - simply begin and don’t hold back.