People say the most stupid and thoughtless things to widows. We need to forgive them not for themselves, but because being unforgiving hurts us more than them.

1. I will no longer dwell on this incident.

2. I will not bring this incident up again.

3. I will not talk to others about this incident.

4. I will not allow this to stand between us. If we have to go our separate ways, I will still forgive and forget so that I do not carry it around with me.

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Ask yourself a spiritual question and then explore it’s answer. Example: How do I make sense of my husband’s death and live with it? Meditating, writing in your journal and prayer will help you gain clarity about your spiritual beliefs.

We all experience times of natural beauty, friendship, a quiet place of peace – revisit these memories and feel how they imprint on you.

Many of us grew up thinking of God as the all-powerful “Father”. That is true but I’ve found the being a parent also has a lot to due with love and helping our children to grow.

Reflecting on this has helped me to think about my own “soul” checkup and the freedom that comes from being loved has helped me to reconnect with my own truth.  Part of my own checkup is forgiving others so that I can let go of the that hurt and not let it drag me down with them.

Mary Francis, The Sisterhood of Widows

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