Are you caught in "the endless tape syndrome” of their illness, death or funeral - over and over and over again?  We certainly have no control over the past, but if we aren’t careful we could get stuck in a trauma cycle. First, listen when someone wants to talk about their “endless tape syndrome”, because they need to relate their story and they also need to hear it said out loud. Grievers are often visibly relieved to hear that others have had the same experience and that they are not going crazy. It is perfectly normal to relive, continually the drama we have experienced.  However, we have to be careful that the reliving doesn’t interfere with your life, overtaking the good things still surrounding you. We never want to stop thinking about our loved ones and our lives together, but the endless tape of drama needs to gradually cease so that our broken hearts can start to heal. A simple trick is to scream, in your mind; “Stop” every time your tape starts to play.  This constant interruption of your tape will cause it to play less and less.  The result is not easy to achieve, but don’t give up.