Even though I’m ahead of many in the grieving process, I still need my time to heal.  Many wounds from my husband’s passing are still there, particularly as I am still on my own. I care about your pain and your broken hearts, and I wish I could help more.  I hate that you’re going through this because as a widow I totally understand your pain. While everyone mourns differently, typically it takes time to heal before one’s grief would start to soften and not be so sharp.  Widows need to look for ways to heal their broken hearts, while still accepting that it takes time to heal and grief cannot be rushed.  For many, peace comes with the help of a therapist who specialized in grief.  Be honest with yourself about how you are coping with your loved ones death.  Don’t hide behind the mask of, “I’m okay”. For online support follow my Blog at www.thesisterhoodofwidows.com.  There are also three free guides that you can download off my website.  In addition to my Blog and Guides go to my Grief Support page for lots of other online Grief Resource Sites that are free (I am not paid to promote them). For local support find other widows that are further alone in their grief and talk to them.  No one understands better than another widow that has already travelled this path.  They also understand that it takes time to heal so they will not rush you along. In life it is important to try new hobbies and adventures.  Start something new, something that takes your focus off of your grief so that your broken heart will have time to heal.  Reading is one of the most effective defenses against loneliness.  Reading helps us to forget about our pain; fiction, comedy and biography are a brief break from our grief. Lastly, pets help us grieve as time heals.  If you don’t have a pet consider volunteering where you can work with animals.  Their unconditional love will help your loneliness and also your broken heart heal.