- Vow to honor your mood swings and allow yourself to feel what you feel.
- Learn to say “No”. Saying “Yes” when you really don’t want to will only create bigger mood swings.
- Recognize that we all have limitations and can’t be everything for everyone.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Remember that they are not thinking of you half as much as you think they are.
- Forgive yourself for mistakes made and for being human. Let it go!
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To Conquer Indecision
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To conquer indecision you need to forget the “should" you think needs to be done to impress or satisfy the needs of others. The best decision comes when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you.
Are you making decisions based on other’s needs or wants? Are your decisions helping you pursue the life you want? As a widow we need to start over in order to heal our broken hearts. We are not meant to be stuck in our grief to a point that we can’t conquer indecision and therefore stay where we are.
Widows are meant to move forward, to live life to the fullest.
We also need to understand our mood swings so we can learn how to control them. I believe we widows think we must be that perfect person we see on everyone else’s Facebook pages. It’s no wonder we are having nervous breakdowns and are struggling to conquer indecision. Trying to do everything based on what others think is a sure way to feed our mood swings.
If you want to conquer indecision you need to face your fear of failure. Ask yourself what’s the worst that could happen? Can you live with that? What would you do if did happened? Life is like a trip on the Titanic where no one gets out alive. So don’t sweat the small stuff, cut yourself some slack and don’t hesitate to conquer indecision so you can move forward.
“The greatest revolution in our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.” William James
Be open to the options that are available, and there are always options. Do research but don’t let the fear of making a mistake stop you from making a decision, any decision is better than staying in place. There is no guarantee that you’re making the right decision. You can do all your research and get all the information, but no one can foresee the future and know all of the outcomes. Just accept that there is no guarantee and be okay with that.