It seems that people at funerals are always on high stress and are super sensitive.  If you go to a funeral and something is not quite right you need to cut the widow some slack. The funeral of a spouse can be overwhelming, and in her grief the widow may simply have forgotten to do or not do something. I am going to be firm because emotions often get out of control before and after funerals, but no matter what happens you have no business forcing your opinion on a woman who is in the process of burying her husband.  It’s very important that we support a widow in her grief and have some compassion for her confusion. No matter what is wrong the widow deserves to be left to bury her husband without any added stress.