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Widows do you need to change your thinking?
By Mary Francis · Originally published: October 3, 2012
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Some tips to help widows handle their grief and the people in their lives.
- Listen to everyone with an open mind and let their comments flow like water off your back. Don't get caught up in who is right or wrong.
- Have fun in what you are doing, rather than worrying about what others think.
- Make a commitment that enough stuff is enough and stop buying for temporary relief. .
- Think - How important are some things going to be ten years from now.
- Remind yourself that happiness is a choice and be grateful that you have choices.
- Notice when you are annoyed or hurt by a person and turn your attention away from judging and into being open minded as to their point of view.
- In times of trouble shift your attention to a less fortunate person, giving and asking nothing in return.
- Stop struggling and slow down so you can become in a state of awareness. Listen for the wisdom of God and repeat “God – Please guide me”.
- Change is a real constant in our lives and what is often disguised as a painful ending is in reality a new beginning.
- Do one thing every day as a “good” deed without needing any thanks or appreciation. Making a daily difference by helping others will mold the way we think of the world.
- Avoid people that tell you what to do and also resist the urge to tell others, who are perfectly capable of making their own choices, what to do.
- Let go have being right (even if you are) and instead say “You may be correct”.
- Change your thinking by taking one habit you want to change and just for today change it. Taking control is a powerful feeling.
