Watch out for the fantasy of “being in love” where you don’t give much thought to whether he is really right for you.  Widows in love with love often get hurt. In the video Mary talks about the “Seven mistakes widows make because they want it too much”. Don’t make a commitment without questioning whether he is the right man for you. Ask questions, talk about your past lives and future dreams. Think about how he would fit into your life. Get to know who he really is so that you don’t fall for “being in love with love” and instead hold out for the real thing. Don’t make a commitment without questioning whether they are the right person for you.  Ask questions, talk about your past lives and future dreams.  Get to know who they really are so that you don’t fall for “being in love with love” and instead hold out for the real thing. Get to know who he really is so that you don’t fall for “being in love with love” and instead hold out for the real thing.   [kad_youtube url="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ulem3biNiuY"]  

Below are some key questions you should ask yourself:

Do you want to date?  Don’t worry about details for now, just identify what you want and don’t want in a relationship. Do you know who you are?  Are you happy just as you are or do you still feel lost?  It helps to have a strong sense of your self-worth. Would you date “You”?  Write out your life journey, what makes you the person you are today. Find the thread that talks about your trials and how far you have come, but also the good parts and why you are happy to be the person you are today. If there is one main thing you need to do to prepare for dating its learning to love yourself first.  Love the unique way you are made, especially your quirks and vulnerabilities.