As widows we are all unique and we are also at different stages in our grief journey.  I try to post positive advice so that we don't just focus on what we don't have. Some widows reply back to me with comments like "What the F...... is this good feel shit", while others say "It's just what I needed to hear today".  Both are right for them and for where they are in their journey. Our kids don't get it, our family doesn't understand and many of our friends fade away.  If we can't count on each other, then who can we count on?  So let this be a place where we are all free to express our opinions and yet honor each other by not judging. Let us all grieve in our own way and let there be a true "sisterhood", where we offer support and encouragement to each other. It's okay to be hurting, angry and less than polite (in other words to show our pain) because we are all in this together.  But please, always honor your fellow widows for where they are in their own journey.