I've personally learned that a widow has to create a new future for herself. I know what it's like to have your future all planned out and for it to be ripped away from you. The major key to your new future is YOU. Work on you - on your personal growth. The magic that makes life better is inside of you and personal growth makes this magic work for you. I'm asking you to feed your mind like you feed your body. Feed it with positive reading, programs on T.V., ideas, people and personal improvement. Consciously make a decision to quit saying what you don't want and to start saying what you do want. When you start thinking and saying what you really want then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. All the books and programs you will ever need to make you healthy, happy, powerful and successful have already been written. They are there to offer us wisdom and experience, so that we can avoid mistakes and create our future instead of just letting our lives drift by. There is very little difference between someone who cannot read and someone who chooses to not read. The end result for both is a lack of growth.